When and if your mom is ragging on your dad, saying mean things about HIM tell her what my kids told me. "He may be an a**hole, but he's MY a**hole so keep it to yourself! I don't like it when you talk that way about him."

As for her calling your T, she should know by now that your T can't share ANYTHING about you with her. That one is up to your T to stop, I would think.

When your mom asks you questions or gives her opinion on YOUR life, tell her that you appreciate her caring but that you're an adult now and are learning how to live YOUR life the best way you can, on your own, that you have your own mistakes to make and own successes to be happy about.

Good luck!