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Old Feb 25, 2016, 09:42 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post

I finally asked if I could borrow her book, Attachment in Psychotherapy, by Wallin. I always see it on her shelf but I rarely ask to borrow her books. Now I'm too tired to read it but I know I will.
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Rainbow - that book saved me. I read it during the beginning period of therapy (this first 1 1/2 years) when I was appalled at what I considered my dependency on my T. I hated the feeling, was embarrassed about it, and didn't understand it.

After reading that book and really studying it, I came to understand that my 'dependency' was a useful aspect of my therapy. How I came to see it was that my life was shifting so violently, like an earthquake. And just like during an earthquake we deem it sensible to hold on to something for safety, so also holding on to one's T during emotional turmoil is something to be commended, not dismissed.

Once I gained that understanding, I didn't fight it anymore and accepted my need for my T. When the earth stopped shaking, I didn't need to hold on anymore.

I've read that book more than once and I think it could be helpful for anyone who worries that they're too 'dependent' on their T.
Thanks for this!
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