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Originally Posted by skysblue
Rainbow - that book saved me. I read it during the beginning period of therapy (this first 1 1/2 years) when I was appalled at what I considered my dependency on my T. I hated the feeling, was embarrassed about it, and didn't understand it.
After reading that book and really studying it, I came to understand that my 'dependency' was a useful aspect of my therapy. How I came to see it was that my life was shifting so violently, like an earthquake. And just like during an earthquake we deem it sensible to hold on to something for safety, so also holding on to one's T during emotional turmoil is something to be commended, not dismissed.
Once I gained that understanding, I didn't fight it anymore and accepted my need for my T. When the earth stopped shaking, I didn't need to hold on anymore.
I've read that book more than once and I think it could be helpful for anyone who worries that they're too 'dependent' on their T.
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Wow! Beautifully said. I find that same feeling of dependency on my counselor. I then go into the whole "you are too needy/guilt/rejection monkey circus". It's draining.
What you shared makes it feel like acceptable and part of the process.
Thank you!!
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