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Originally Posted by leomama
I've had two very discouraging conversations with my father over the past few days. I can't talk to him about the past because he accuses me of dwelling in it. He made a very insulting comment to me a few days ago about being on the dole and when I told him I wasn't On welfare he said I still get money from the government . I told him every time I try to go back to work I have a crisis with my daughter and he's nowhere around to help. When I try to talk to him about my learning disability he says "I guess". Then when I try to talk to him about how he's talking to me he says we can go no contact if that will help. It's like I just can't win with him. I would love to go back to work but I don't have any help with my daughter and haven't been able to make the long term time commitment necessary to get rehabilitated. In the past when I've tried to talk to him about my PTSD he said he thought only veterans get that. I find it very discouraging to talk to him but I don't think going no contact is the solution .
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Im a bit confused because america doesnt have the dole. the dole is a UK government work program where those that get government assistance in the Uk (example australia) locations have to meet with their caseworker and be assigned a job site.
you said your father made a comment about you being on the dole. does that mean he is located in the UK and just using that as a reference point because you are in america (your profile says you are here in the US (united States). or are you somewhere in the UK with a location that also uses the abbreviation of US?
reason i ask i have a suggestion. if you are here in the USA you can mail him a copy of the government program here that you are in that can show him the difference between the Dole and welfare systems.
Also if you are here in the USA we have many programs that can help with parenting problems. your therapist or a treatment provider can give you information about the many programs that are centered around parenting hard to manage or special needs children.