I'm not up on California divorce....even though I am in California & went to a divorce lawyer a few years back....decided against it at that time.

But it seems to me that if your husband is being a jerk & trying to go against the settlement & not paying you child support, they why can't you go against it too & not give him the visitation.....no child support, no visitation?????

Obviously I don't know how it works, but I wouldn't be playing his games & wouldn't give him anything....with holding everything until he agrees to & signs the settlement. You said you gave him more than 1/2 on the house......& yet you are paying everything on the legal end. The divorce is for both of you.....he should be responsible for 1/2 of the legal fees when it is all said & done.

I wouldn't cooperate at all from that point on & start sticking it to him. I can really see why you wouldn't want to be married to him....sounds like a complete jerk who is controlling & manulipative.....sounds like he needs a good dose of his own medicine.

Debbie