rcat, know what you mean.
I once, long ago, answered a question honestly, on a job application for a job that I was already wanted for---the person handling the app. came running out of her office yelling my name and said "Redo this. The answer to this question is "NO"" When I began to say I was just being honest she said "It doesn't matter. It is none of their business."
I have kept that attitude most of my working life and it was worth it---
I decided I did not need to disclose anything that could be used against me, or that did not in that time affect my ability to perform my job well---- ...it has caused periodic misunderstandings of my behaviors but I can live with that.
It has also resulted, at times, in gasps of astonishment, and relief when I have chosen to share certain things with particular people (those who I think are having difficulty and think they are alone...)