Hi nuuala:
I just read your post. This is the SECOND marriage that's gone into the abuse mode? Oh I'm afraid that you might be picking the wrong men in your life. Are you aware that you might be picking out abusive men subconsciously? My mom used to do that too. I guess she
never thought she deserved real love, or even if she knew what it was???? she would inevidibly pick out the abuser.
She told me once she thought that's all she could get. I use
to think.........hogwash!!! It's the abuse she likes for some reason. I never figured it out. Pls. be careful not to stay in this one either if that's all he has to offer you. It doesn't get better. I know. I lived that with my own mother for years. She never left him either. He finally died. Oh darn!!!