It sounds to me like you don't have any interests of your own.....things that you do by yourself. Things that you enjoy doing that keep your mind off yourself & off the complete needing of your husband.

This is definitaly not a good way to start out a marriage......& I would imagine if it keeps going, it might be hard to keep the marriage going for long. A marriage should be a partnership. It should be 2 individuals that come together & share the bond of being together too.....but if the 2 don't keep their individuality in the marriage.....& when one person ends up doing everything......Where is the partnership in that?

Crafts (beading, jewelry making, needle work, sewing, painting, etc), reading, classes in the community center or college, going to a gym, sports (tennis, etc), theater group, music group,.....anything that can get you out of yourself.......you need to find something you can put your interest on & become independent. Even if men like to be the care takers.....they don't like to be smothered.....sounds more like smothering than dragging him down to me (but that may just be the way I'm reading that).

This is the time to make the needed changes in yourself in the marriage. I started out my marriage very unhappy at the way my husband lived his life & pointed out the problems at the beginning. He didn't listen & I tolerated.....there comes a time when the other person quits tolerating & no one knows at what point that happens. For me, it has taken 32 years, but I have been very unhappy for at least 32 of those years. Looking back, I wonder why I waisted all those years being unhappy.

Just something to think about & see if it makes any sense in your case,
Debbie