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Originally Posted by divine1966
If you've been married 20 years and don't work it is pretty typical to get spousal support. My fiancé pays a lot spousal support because his ex refuses to work and they've been married over 20 years and he makes good money even though she is the one who filed for divorce. Judge said she is accustomed to a certain life style and he needs to continue contributing to it for certain number of years. It's not up to him. Judge decides
I doubt minimum wages jobs would worry that you never worked. You were a homemaker.
AA isn't religious based. There is a spiritual component to it but you don't have to follow dogma. You can take out of it what you need
I don't have a very good credit either, it's average at best . My fiancée had bankruptcy. It never prevented him from renting apartment or buying a car. It's harder to get low interest credit card or buy a house until credit gets rebuilt. But other things are available and world didn't end.
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If you don't mind me asking, where did you fiance and his ex live at the time of their marriage? Maybe it depends on the state and the judge? I know that this is a 50/50 state, but like I said, he's a sneaky one, and he'd try to hide his assets and income for sure. And with my luck, the judge probably won't be as kind to me.
The problem with minimum wage jobs is that even they have their limits. I have two things on my record that I explained in detail just a minute ago to the person who wrote to me before you, OceanSwimmer.
Who would hire me when Target and Safeway rejected me? It makes me want to give up, and I have for awhile. I don't know if I'll go back to A.A. Maybe I will, maybe not. If I do, it'll be mostly to get the support that I can't afford to get. A counselor out here costs $100 and up an hour!
Anyways, I hope that he never does hit me. I let him know that I'll take action fast and call the cops again if he does, so that's why he took my phone away.
He had to go to a hotel last time, and he was embarrassed that the neighbors saw what was going on. They all think that he's this great guy when they don't really know him.
I just sent him a text that explained how I felt w/o making it sound like everything was his fault. I did say sorry that I drank to much and said a few things that I didn't mean, but that I don't appreciate being yelled at.
I also sent him a link about emotional abuse. I told him that it's not normal to abuse and hurt people that you claim to love, and that by taking away my phone and threatening to not get me the laptop that he promised are all signs of controlling and intimidating behavior that I don't appreciate.
I asked him if he'd like to go to marriage counselor with me to work on his anger and control issues. I doubt that he will, but now I have written proof that I tried to be the adult here if push comes to shove. Pun not intended.
Anyways, trying to find low cost counseling of any kind is very hard. I did contact this one lady, but she ignored my email it seems like. I made the mistake of asking her over email about her sliding scale payment and that I'm not sure if my husband will help me pay for it as I'm not working. That was a huge, huge mistake!
I'm upset about that. Why even offer a sliding scale fee if money is such an issue to them? She could've worked something out with me, or have referred me to a low or no cost counseling center. I did ask for that, and she ignored me, ugh!
The search will continue though. Hopefully I'll find someone who can and will help soon at a reduced rate. And better yet, hopefully by some miracle, my stubborn husband will attend at least a few sessions with me.
I got my phone back, and will hide it from now on. He is still giving me the silent treatment, ugh! The good news is that I don't think that he'll ever hit me, but this emotional abuse that he dishes out when he's angry and stressed out is not ok! I'm going to do whatever I can to stop this