Hi Maven -- Why are you with someone who puts you down like this? My husband used to do this do me (lots of dumb pollock jokes), and one day his best friend called me, and took me out to a diner, told me he was in love with me and couldn't stand to see me letting myself be treated that.

Big wake-up call for me. Broke up the husband's and best friend's friendship. Did not go with the friend, however.

Clearly, you are thinking constructively about why you leave yourself open for exactly what you know what will happen. Best wishes figuring it out and taking appropriate action.