Hi Pickle - I too have a short fuse - always have - even when I was a very little girl. For years I had it under control - only certain things would set me off. Anyway, in the last 2 years because of events in my life, such as caring for my elderly dog at night and work and a relationship issue, I have gotten a lot less sleep. And, as a result, of that and the extra stress, I found my very short fuse back again. I put up with getting furious at even little things for a while - even after I slapped my laptop and broke it, costing me another $2000 to buy a new one. Finally, I had to go to my family doctor for an eye injury that happened when I was having a hissy fit and trying to pull the couch cover back into place (hand came off cover, flew back, thumb landed in my eye - making me even madder - funny now - not funny then). Anyway, I was fed up about my adult temper tantrums and mentioned them to him and he gave me a Rx for Lexapro. Now I am not a big one to take any kind of meds but I tried these and amazingly they worked for me. I have not had an unreasonable anger attack since I started on them. I also think the list thing you are doing is a good idea - it probably would have triggered my short fuse if I had tried to do it but I do think anger and fear are close cousins. Hoping you have much success in getting a handle - take care.