Thanks. Yes, perhaps it is that way, Iīve also tried to find an explanation and thought that perhaps she goes there to write notes. But still, it would take about 30 seconds to follow me to the door and say goodbye.
I also feel that if I have to ask her to say goodbye and follow me to the door I wouldnīt feel she did it because she care or feels itīs important but because I asked her to.
I feel sad about this as it isnīt about boundaries as she a couple of times actually has followed me to the door and said goodbye. Now when she mostly doesnīt do that I get some vague feeling that she doesnīt like me in some way.
I donīt think she plans to not saying goodbye but more of she just doesnīt like me that much and that makes her indifferent?
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Originally Posted by substancelessblue
That would kill me. I see my T in her home and she always leads me or follows me to her front door and says goodbye or "See you in x weeks" or whatever. It's so important to me. If I was in your situation I would be really nervous about mentioning it to her, especially when you hinted about being observant already. Maybe her mind is just very focused on her next client? Like she is headed to her desk to read her notes or whatever?
I feel as if you shouldn't have to say something twice with a T. Especially something so simple that she could easily fix. If you feel able you could say outright, "I would really appreciate if you called goodbye to me at the end of our sessions" or do it yourself - and she could follow your lead. Otherwise I think just leaving abruptly to see if she notices is a fair plan too.
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