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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
As saying "goodbye" is such an universal thing in most relationships I donīt want to beg her to do this. If I have to "instruct" her to do such an easy and to me self-evident thing it wouldnīt feel genuine if she then said goodbye and such.
I also feel that if she in some way does this to show me we are not friends or something like that, such a cold attitude wonīt work with me and she doesnīt gain anything by it. A T should be careful around these things and wanting to build a relationship because what else is there to work from?
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Ah, difficult. I guess I wouldn't think of telling someone you are paying for a service from how she could improve her service as begging. I would think you have much more dignity and power in this relationship than that.
I doubt she is doing this to demonstrate you are not friends. She could be socially awkward or easily distracted, for example - her behavior doesn't necessarily arise out of coldness. I definitely agree she should be careful! I just think if you help her along with letting her know how you expect to be treated you'll be able to tell more about what her behavior means.
I have asked my therapist to do a couple of things every session as part of our greetings and goodbyes. He does them because he wants me to be comfortable, but he wouldn't have known I needed them if I hadn't told him. It helped me to trust him that he was up for paying attention to these things I was asking for. I guess I just think if you are open with what's bothering you, you might have a good result.