I understand where you're coming from d.o.a. My ridiculous perfectionism is one o the things that drove me here in the first place. It's not just MY need to be perfect, but it's accepting the world around me as it crashes and burns sometimes. It's exhausting and sad.
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Originally Posted by Frankbtl
Hi d.o.a.
Absolutely "I don't have to nor do I need to be perfect" d.o.a.!!! 
And naturally NO-ONE is perfect.
But.........how about looking at it another way.....???
Imagine you met the (non-existent!!) perfect, or nearly perfect person.........dressed "perfectly", looked "perfect", had "perfect" opinions, had "perfect" feelings, said/felt "perfect" things, "perfectly" achieved so many things.............I'm not sure me, you or a lot of people would actually really deep down connect with them.
It's often some of the "imperfections" that bring us together..........whether to care, to share, to enjoy each others company, to feel less alone..........sometimes it's some of the "perfection's" that can be the actual flaws in people. So I say cherish some of those imperfections..........some imperfections can make you better than perfect
And with some "imperfections"..........well there will be some people who actually see them as perfect qualities in you, who will really value and love those "imperfections" in you.
So you shouldn't have to not "have or need to be" perfect..........some "imperfections" can be something to treasure
Alison |
This whole thing was awesome. Made me cry. 
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