So I'm still in the same boat in just about every way...

We've had two good discussions on the matter since, but neither have gone anywhere.

One discussion, she says that she feels that she would need time alone... to understand what it is to be alone with herself. Problem is, we have kids and we live under the same roof. She mildly suggest that I could get a fully furnished condo and move out every second week when we don't have the kids, so to not affect them. (as, if this works out, the kids will not have to go through the back and forth of us being together and then apart.)

We left it at that...

A few days later, we reopened the discussion.... In her head, she's asking herself if she's not meant to live alone all her life..., Then she asks me... how is it that you know that you love me? She want's to know the criteria to love...

First of all, this person will never be happy alone... and I expressed this to her.

Secondly, I've suggested that she stops analysing what love is and just allows herself to be happy in the moment. I feel she's afraid to fail at another relationship.

The therapy still has yet to happen, as she's had an extremely rough month at work. I'm scepticle.

My brother thinks that she is selfish and that I should take my son and move on...
A female friend of mine thinks that we have a lot invested in this and that I should give her some time and space.

I don't know... I understand both perspectives. I don't want to just be needed, I want to be wanted! I love this person and I would like to work on this with her, but not at the expense of my heart and sanity. She seems to always get what she wants, and doesn't recognize it.

Thanks