I don't think forgiveness is something that can be forced although I think one can work through it. And forgiveness doesn't mean things are all right in your world or that it stops hurting...

I guess, for me, forgiveness is an act of letting go and moving forward. I acknowledge the hurt, I acknowledge the pain, but it doesn't bring up rage and anger. It just... is. I feel the pain, then I move onto the next thing and don't dwell on it. I try to find a way to resolve the anger apart from them. I know I've forgiven when I can see the good, feel sorrow for the bad, and not feel angry about it all.

A lot of that takes time. But for what one can do to move towards it, I think learning to not feed the anger is a key piece. By not feeding the anger, it has the chance to subside.

But I don't think forgiveness is something one wakes up and feels suddenly. It's a journey and a process.