Thanks. That was an interesting point, that she could be socially awkward. I hadnīt think of it that way before and I also react to that she sometimes do follow me to the door and says goodbye. But perhaps it is like you say, she gets easily distracted.
I have a hard time telling people things like this as to me theyīre obvious. I would really feel awkward if I just turned my back om someone who were about to leave my apartment or office. I think Iīll see for some more sessions, if the sessions goes well I perhaps just let this pass or "play along" and not telling her goodbye either. Even if thatīs perhaps a bit childish.
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Originally Posted by Pennster
Ah, difficult. I guess I wouldn't think of telling someone you are paying for a service from how she could improve her service as begging. I would think you have much more dignity and power in this relationship than that.
I doubt she is doing this to demonstrate you are not friends. She could be socially awkward or easily distracted, for example - her behavior doesn't necessarily arise out of coldness. I definitely agree she should be careful! I just think if you help her along with letting her know how you expect to be treated you'll be able to tell more about what her behavior means.
I have asked my therapist to do a couple of things every session as part of our greetings and goodbyes. He does them because he wants me to be comfortable, but he wouldn't have known I needed them if I hadn't told him. It helped me to trust him that he was up for paying attention to these things I was asking for. I guess I just think if you are open with what's bothering you, you might have a good result.
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