I used to set myself up for comments like that. It broke my heart when he bit. If I'd react he'd suggest I was over sensitive. I'd respond with the point that he knows this about me so he shouldn't set me up. Just bit your tongue in the future if it's going to lead to hurting my feelings. He'd try for a while but like I said I'd set myself up and sometimes he'd not bit his tongue and inevitably I'd get hurt.

I did start to consider that I needed to work on the fragile state of my self-esteem. I didn't like that he had so much power over my own sense of pride and confidence.

In the end he agreed to bite his tongue more and I agreed to believe in myself more. We aren't together anymore and part of it was his controlling, nasty ways but mostly it was me getting stronger and having less tolerance for his put downs. Some were jokes but many were not and those were the deal breakers.

Love is a decision and being a loving person takes work. If we let people get away with unloving behaviour it will just escallate is my experience.

Don't let his words hurt you Maven. He is but one voice in a world that sings your praises more often than not. Listen to the praises and block out his nastys. Let him know how his words affect you but don't be dependant on him understanding or changing. Be dependant on your own self-love and acceptance.

Wishing you well..... why not do yourself up royally tonight and celebrate your beauty. Face yourself in the mirror and speak the affirmations until you own the beauty reflecting back at you. Put a dress on and turn up the music and dance in honour of your beauty.

You are beautiful inside and out. Believe it!!!