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Old Feb 28, 2016, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by SarahSweden View Post
Itīs common to think of a T like a mother, a father or any other important person in our lives. I donīt think you should have to worry as the transference is a natural process and a good T should know how to handle that. Transference is always there to some extent and sometimes we feel it more intensively, like when transference is linked to a loss in life.

To me transference has to be accepted by the T and the T must also accept that the client becomes a bit dependent of him/her for a while and that such transference is worked through.

I donīt think you can or should hide your strong feelings, I know itīs hard to admit it to a T but perhaps you could say something short and simple like "in a way I see a mother figure in you" and then you could wait for your T:s response. I also think that a responsive T is already aware when this happens and that he/she already feels it even if the client hasnīt brought the subject up.

Thanks for your reply I've been thinking about how to broach the topic a lot these last couple days and with varied advice from the kind people here I think I know how to do it. Whether I chicken out or not is another story! I have wondered if she's picked up on it already as she's very switched on. She's a brilliant T and has been doing her job for 8 years so I'm guessing (hoping) she's been through this before.

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