i texted my T in 2013 when he was on vacation that i felt paternal transference for him. we never discussed it in person because i asked him not to as i felt embarrassed about it. in 2014 i texted him telling him i felt like i love him like a parent. he said he was touched and that it wasn't wrong, and it was a good sign. 2 days ago i sent him an email telling him i wish he was my dad when i was little and how it breaks my heart to see how much he loves his step-kids. i got super distressed about sending it, extreme regret. he didn't answer my texts yesterday so i convinced myself i had ruined everything by saying those things. i met with him today and he told me that he felt the same way about his therapist. he said thats essentially what he is, reparenting me.. he told me it is very common and to be expected. he also told me that it makes me especially vulnerable because of my former T and what happened there.

im pretty shy about these things so i found it easier and safer to create distance around it by texting him. maybe you can write it down and give it to your T? i feel so relieved that i've finally told my T about it, and i hope your T knows how to deal with transference and helps you with it