There had been clues from the first year that teh marriage had problems. I saw his flaws and allowed them to continue. The final straw was when we were going to the food bank to get food to feed our kids and I overheard him say that he had lots of money put aside for a computer hardware piece. (He was a computer addict)

When I confronted him about the money, he said that he had it. I asked him if he would mind putting some of that money into getting food to feed our kids and he gave me $50 dollars (out of the hundreds he had). It was just enough to get flour, eggs, milk, margarine and such things to back for the children. It was then that I knew we (myself and the children) had to leave and re-establish a better life.