Hi Sarah, (((hugs))). In AA they say you are not suppose to do anything for at least the first year of your sobriety, no relationships, no changes cause you are still changing. When they do get involved it is too much and often makes them have a relapse. AA is a program that says TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE. When an alcoholic lives for others they set themselves up to be dishonest and neglect their own sobriety and often it is a matter of time until they go back out. Often when that happens they don't make it back into the rooms. Your depression is triggering him and he needs to get away and reflect. Why not use this time apart to work on yourself with a counselor or therapist for yourself? When we are so consumed with others we become dependant upon them which stresses the other one out. To better understand your boyfriend i highly recommend reading the book CODEPENDENT NO MORE by Melodie Beatty. It is an excellent book about alcoholics and those in relationships with them. I cannot say enough about this book. tc and blessings