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Old Feb 29, 2016, 07:53 AM
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Originally Posted by SarahK View Post
Lots of good advice here so you probably don't need much more. But I thought I'd add how I approached my issues of transference with my therapist. It may or may not work for you.

I liked to ask questions about the therapy process in general, partly because I was curious and partly because i wanted to know what was "happening to me" in therapy. So when transference / countertransference made its way into our sessions, I started asking questions about therapy and attachment. I asked how my therapist knew where the line was -- in that clients (like me) likely need some degree of attachment to even want to keep showing up to sessions, but I asked if that was detrimental. (The answer I got was no, that there needs to be some connection between the therapist and client for there to be caring and trust.) Then I asked something like, "I'm always seeing issues of transference in movies and on TV shows about therapy and psychology." (Which was true.) So mainly I got the ball rolling by talking about the concept of transference and then I was able to say, "Well I sometimes feel that way, like I'm attached to you...etc...." That opened up the door to a personal conversation.

I was told that this stuff comes up all the time in therapy and that therapists spend lots of time learning about it. Transference isn't a problem. The only time it becomes a problem is if the therapist doesn't react to / respond to it correctly. But, from what I was told, it's very common and many therapist expect issues of transference to arise from time to time.

Good luck.

Don't be nervous. (Easy to say, I know.) To be fair, I was indeed nervous to bring it up. But I will say my therapist was very happy I did. He said, "You've one of the few people who's actually been willing to talk about what so many people are dealing with."

It's good to know that it comes up all the time. But us as clients have no clue that's why we worry so much I guess. Thanks for your advice

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