no one is a heel by wanting to have a complete marriage. never. i have a term for people who don't give what they receive...."emotionally lazy".....

it is hard work, day in and day out, to be "there" and to be present at all times. women have to do more of it because we're traditionally the caregivers and do all of the maternal things naturally. (well, some do) '

some people aren't willing to give of themselves, fully, to be in a relationship.....i have a friend who admits that he's too emotionally lazy to sustain a long term relationship. i also have a woman friend who feels the same about herself.

"giving" comes from a core within ourselves and if we've had things taken away before, it can become almost impossible to offer someone else a piece of the pie. and i'm not saying that it can't be learned, because i believe that it is a reachable goal. the person just has to want it with all of their heart and soul and be willing to take two steps forward and one step back during the process.....

you aren't a heel, Rhap.....you're a lonely woman who is in love with her husband and feels very neglected. whatever you decide to do, it will be the best for you......xoxoxo pat