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bebop said:
if it is something you just can not live without then you are not a heel.

I am sorry though that it might come to that after 21 yrs together. is he willing to get counseling? I would try everything possible before leaving.

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Yes..... he would probably try counseling with me if I started it back with my T - but then again we have done this before and we find ourselves but "once again" back at square one in this giving thing and with his fear of me.

I personally do not think I can live with out emotional intimacy in the man I share my life with - so I guess it is just a matter of time.