Thanks. Yes, thatīs how it is for me, I feel hurt and it also makes me puzzled as she a couple of times has followed me to the door. What was that then? A bit of a better mood during that day? Hard to understand.
As she just loses when behaving like this I feel I get as ignorant as her, I "pay back" with the same attitude. For several times now Iīve although she has behaved in this cold or odd way, I have said goodbye, thanked her for the session and so on.
As I know many T:s are more caring and more sensitive to these things I donīt want to give her instructions. If she thinks sheīll get somewhere by acting like this, fine. Sheīs working within public health care and by that it isnīt that easy for her to just drop my case.
I have really shown interest in this therapy, Iīve been cooperative with details from my life and so on. Iīll reply in the same way as she does.
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Originally Posted by Myrto
My therapist always walks me to the door, opens it and says goodbye or see you next week. (I don't thank her because why on earth would I thank her for doing her job?)
If she suddenly walked toward her desk and turned her back to me in silence, I would feel hurt. I would interpret it as the therapist being annoyed or fed up with me. So I completely understand where you're coming from.
It's also pretty rude. You're right that you shouldn't have to ask her to do a pretty obvious thing (saying goodbye). Still how is she going to know that it's upsetting and hurting you if you don't tell her? Talk to her. Mention how it makes you feel. If she's a good therapist she'll listen.
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