Hello cureav: From what you wrote, it doesn't sound to me as though this girl is the love of your life. I agree with you that her behavior is immature & disrespectful. Something is driving her to seek attention in the ways she is doing. And only she can do what needs to be done to figure out what that is... if she chooses to do so. If she does not, then there's little you can do to make her change. The leopard cannot change it's spots. It sounds as though you have expressed your concerns to the best of your ability. So if she chooses to still do those things that concern you, my thought would be that it may be time to rethink this relationship. My best wishes to you...