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Old Sep 01, 2007, 11:06 PM
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What if you told your therapist that you loved him/her?

I feel very close to my therapist, as close as I've ever felt to another human. I love him. Not in an unhealthy way, like I want to marry him or have an outside relationship or anything. But I feel a profound connection and realize I feel love toward him. I'm OK with that and know it is part of the therapeutic relationship and can be used for great progress in my therapy and journey toward healing.

For those of you who feel love toward your therapist, on some level, how do you think they would react if you told them? Or how did they react if you already have?

I think if I told my T I loved him, he would accept it, and understand the strong sense of connection and trust and caring behind my words. I don't think he'd be freaked out by it. I think he would trust my understanding of our relationship, and he might even say back that he loved me too, because he knows I wouldn't misinterpret it. If he didn't say anything reciprocal, I think he would still accept it and just pull his chair close, look at me in that really connected way he has, and simply say "thank you."

Anyway, that's my prediction for my T. Not that I'm about to try it out or anything....

How would your T react?
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