Thanks sister, pegasus, pinksoil, stormyangels, and almedafan.

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sister said:Sounds shamanistic.

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You got it, sister. Sometimes I do get a feel of him as shaman when he does or says a certain thing, or looks at me a certain way. He is trained in the healing arts. I have never discussed his training in this area much with him, although he has left that door open. I would like to learn more from him on this sometime. Our very first session, when he was learning why I was there and I was learning about him, he rose up out of his seat and towered over me--he is a tall man--and intoned "I am a healer." It was a memorable moment, I felt his tremendous energy, and I remember thinking whoa, this guy's got balls! I liked that. His confidence in his ability to heal gave me confidence that I could heal. Very powerful.

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Filled with give and take and my feelings and his self disclosure sprinkled throughout, him sharing with me about anger and little bits from his own marriage and divorce

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Wow, what was this like for you? Has he ever self disclosed like that before.

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Yes, he has, but maybe more this time than in many sessions. Self disclosure is a common part of our therapy and has allowed us to go really deep and bond with each other. Although the last few sessions, we haven't done it much, and I have missed it. This session was like coming home to what works so well for us. From almost the very beginning, self disclosure has been a part of our therapy. I asked for it, not directly, and I didn't even realize what I needed and was asking, but when he provided some, it was like "eureka, that's it" and we haven't looked back since. What was a bit different this session, is that in the past, I have welcomed and accepted his self disclosure, but felt a boundary that I couldn't cross by asking him specific, personal questions about what he was sharing of himself. I felt it was for him to give to me what he chose, but I couldn't ask for more from him. But this time, I asked a number of questions that I hadn't felt able to before. And he answered every one. So it was even more mutualistic than in the past. And it deepened things even more. Of course, I didn't ask anything inappropriate, as I am very respectful of boundaries, but I felt able to do more than before, somehow, and it was well met.

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to put the focus on healing, above all else

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Yes, that is my T. That is my therapy.