I don't think anyone is trying to pass judgment on your marriage. Your situation is just a bit confusing. From my perspective, it seems as if you are describing two completely different marriages. On the one hand, you seem to have a great relationship with your husband. You communicate, you're both in therapy, and he makes you feel loved. But on the other hand, you say you're lonely in your marriage. Personally, I'm having a little bit of trouble making these two images mesh into one marriage. I'm also having trouble understanding exactly what it is you're looking for in terms of support. You don't come across as overly dependent to me. I also never got the impression that you are expecting perfection from either yourself or husband. You seem very aware of the situation and are taking the right steps to make the situation better. Maybe you could explain what "support" means to you and what it looks like.

I'm sorry you're feeling attacked. I really do think people just want to help.