Over the past year and a half the toxic relationship I had with my mother came to a head. She offered to come help at the end of my pregnancy, like an idiot I said yes and it was bad. She tried to run my house, started her paranoia with my daughter, treated my husband like an outsider/ the enemy. She was projecting on him. She is not healthy mentally, she has a lot of issues to get through but refuses to get help. She doesn't believe in mental health, therapy or anything. She says it's all just an excuse. Anyways it all came to a head one night when I stood up for myself and my family. I didn't go no contact right away but after my sons baptism I had to. My mother has this voice she uses when she thinks she's better than someone, I started calling it the cat woman voice when I was little. My husband went up to her to say hi give her a hug try and smooth things over. She used it, he said enough and she turned right around and walked away. My husband lost it cursing the whole way up the church. Well my mothers story is my husband came up pretending to be nice and called her a wench.... He called her the C word in his frustration so I don't think he would call her a wench, if he was gonna start something he would have. I'm just so over her drama, I have tried to smooth things over enough so that I have some relationship with her atleast 5 times each time she twisted what happened to make herself look good. I sent her a message saying our relationship had to change I'm an adult I have to worry about my family first, (my kids my husband) I even apologized for ever complaining about my inlaws or my husband to her. She printed out the message and told everyone that I told her I'm not her daughter anymore and I have to focuse on my real family... My inlaws... Then she told my step father that I was out of line for wanting to be her equal.... I'm 28 I've been married for 6 years I have 2 under 3 I have lived in 2 different states (husband is in the military) how the ***k am I not an adult! In what world am I still a kid?

In this past 18 months my mother has wound up my sister so she has attacked me verbally many times. I rebuilt our bridge just because she had her first child. I'm going home this weekend gonna try and see my sister and her daughter but I am sick thinking about how this weekend will play out.



Sorry for the long post mostly a vent. I just feel like i have done all I can it's their turn but they aren't going to. I've been to therapy released after a year, I've done toxic parent research, I've admited what I did wrong, I've been no contact. I just still feel like a piece of crap.