I'm sort of in the same boat as you but I feel like the reason I'm stuck is because I don't seem to be able to fully trust / feel comfortable / believe that I have a good 'fit' with my therapist.

And, it's not her fault i.e., I really doubt that she can do anything different.

It didn't seem to matter a great deal all this while (although it's been a bit like a shoe that slightly pinches) because I hadn't gotten to the really messy, deep, gawdawfully vulnerable stuff.

So now, I'm just looking to make a decision in the next few weeks (circumstances may decide it) on whether to stay with her or leave.

In the meanwhile, coming up with stuff to talk about has been frustrating.

For what it's worth, the strategy that seems to be working for me is that I describe how I'm processing old stuff (stuff that I've already mentioned in therapy) -- so, I don't necessarily rehash what happened in the past but rather how I'm looking at it or framing it.

In doing that, some other details / events / dynamics etc crop up that she sometimes latches on to as significant and we discuss that. Seems to be working so far but we'll see....!

I know that it's not a healthy, honest way to do it but yeah, it's where I am at.