Could it be the mask they speak of are of their own insight? The reflection is seen through their own eyes? Nons do have a choice that is easier to pick rather than one that was created for our minds to do as we see fit. One to survive in a way we could only come to terms with. People talk about empathy, understanding and so on yet in reality these same things cause so many pain because of their relying on "what is supposed to be". Is it our fault that we have a layer around us that makes it more difficult to cut through and cause the pain that we do not release. The pain that so many speak of because of a certain situation when our pain is caused in a much deeper format. One that we weren't to speak of, nobody we could turn to when needed to guide us through. Sure what happens isn't always the best when you are involved with one of us. But do know that we too suffer with the constant inner-self to figure out what and how we see and feel to be "our" truths!! Is it easier to be hurt and be able to walk a way, to heal and gain back your-self? Maybe you believe it's easier for someone like me who is now programmed and wired for nearly 40 years of a way that was normal to me. The same way you feel about you is the same way I felt about me for nearly my entire life. This means I am me for whatever I have, whatever I do and however I see. What may have been created for me, by me or some type of greater power for one like me to survive in a world that didn't hand me an instruction booklet of guidance. In simple terms it is easier to walk away from a painful situation that you were put into for a period of time. Try walking away from yourself!!! Let me know how that works out. Nons are not the enemy, people here for the most part are of good intentions. Every now and again we do get to see the ones determined to bring us down, to gain for themselves something back for what they see as what was taken by someone like us in their own lives. I came and continue to come here to be heard. I also come back so I can listen to what others have to say. Way's that some are either shaking their heads in disbelief and some that have zero understanding of some of the things we speak of. Truth is for nearly 40 years I have roamed this earth and never found someone like me. Not because I look at myself in a way that can compare to none (as the nons were thinking of lol) but when I am here I can see myself through others. The understanding without explaining. The reading of others notes and thinking wow they too understand. For a place like this is so important for a person to really fit in. Not create a part to fit into. We do have depth, one that isn't ever visible to most. Our strengths can also help others if in fact we only do it for ourselves. Nevertheless it still helps no matter which road is chosen in getting there. The outcome I guess is really the only thing that matters. We may not put you on a bed of roses and sing love songs (unless were trying to suck blood LOL) but we will open ourselves to resolving or at least show some why. To the nons here who I do speak to I appreciate you. I do like to have conversations with you and hear your things too. It shows me at times how I may be perceived or thought of and this helps me. I appreciate the fact that we can talk here in a way of non judgement and actually help eachother (as crazy as this may seem). To the nons that like to pass judgement here irritate me to no end. As I am sure you are all aware if you research NPD online all that comes up are the groups of people affected by "us" and nothing truly for "us" to help. The other day my wife was looking for a book on NPD and said to me they only have for people to rid themselves of people with NPD or the ones hurt by someone with NPD. Nothing about the individual with NPD!!! So what have we learned (besides my book should be written), we have learned that it's easy to paint a picture of us in a way that so many do. Just google NPD. We have been targeted by the masses. They cannot be helped, leave and don't look back, they will never change and so on. Here's a little secret to them and you have seen it in this forum time and time again, we too have feelings. Yes it's true we do feel. Our expressing of these feelings are just different. The non understanding that comes from what we dealt with is for our way out. Yes the depth needs to be shown so you can see another side as we have something that would take all these groups and books and toss them into another category. One day maybe, probably never. People will be people by basing beliefs on others ideals as it was, will and forever remain to be. Be yourself is our problem, our ideals are usually our own and as you can see people don't appreciate that as much. Please note that I no longer go back and check over. Just don't care as much anymore, you know who I am and how I write. If these type of things bother you than bypass my posts.