There are different ways of being a guy. There are different ways of being a human. Which ways feel authentic to you and make sense? Whether one is more stoic or expressive, independent or collaborative, physical or mental, intuitive or logical, etc. etc. in infinite combinations is really personal choice, aptitude, preference and experience. You do get to define your own self.

Guys who most other people would accurately describe as "pigs and monsters" aren't doing well at being a high functioning human, let alone a specific gender thereof!