I hear what you're saying Divine, and ordinarily I would agree with you, without hesitation, but there are extenuating circumstances regarding OP's dilemma.


When a couple moves too fast, sometimes it is wisest to take a step or two back in order to actually salvage the relationship.


OP's partner has jumped from relationship to relationship without taking much, if any, time to be by herself and take the time to grow as an individual.

Diving in when you're not even sure you can swim is not very smart.


Like I said, ordinarily I would agree with moving on when one person seems to have one foot outside the door, but not everything is black and white, cut and dry.

Life is full of shades of grey.


FWIW to the OP, my relationship took a step back at one point, a HUGE step, people would've thought me stupid if I had posted asking advice about it. But I knew I had to go through with it, I just knew he was worth the risk. At times it was excruciating trying to adjust to it. But in the end, it was the right thing for both of us and our relationship has never been better nor more solid.



I guess for me it was easy to know without hesitation that I was doing the right thing, because I've known my bf half my life, way before we started dating. So while it was an emotional gamble, the odds were in my favour...




OP, We can only draw our conclusions from what you post, we are not there living your life, we don't know the inside scoop of your relationship.

Only you know if this woman is worth the effort and the risk, and as you can possible guess, we all post based on our personal experiences, so our feedback will be influenced by it.


You know in your heart and your head what you want to do, what you're prepared to do. Our heads and hearts seldom agree, and when they do, they don't tend to lead us astray.