I have definitely learned to be tougher. It's just I really felt bad for our kid who's caught in the middle and really wants to be close to him. It breaks my heart every time my ex promises him something and doesn't deliver so I did my best to try and keep visitation a separate issue.

One things for sure, I'm not going out of my way to make visitation happen because I realize I can't protect our child from the type of person my ex is and my efforts are definitely not appreciated. If anything more I do, the more my ex wants.