Hi Myzen -- I agree with every single thing you've said!

1. Being a bit cautious when we meet people. Disclosing on a "needs to know" basis.

After moving to New Orleans, I cut off relations with a woman I'd been friends with -- off and on -- for about 20 years. She has big-time money issues. Last time that I had to drop the friendship was when I was poor and struggling. This time, same reason. And I've seen her treat others in her life the same way. Even when I'm struggling with keeping a roof over my head, she wants me to be her therapist about boyfriend and self-doubt issues. I decided that it was a dysfunctional relationship bec. the only times is works is when (a) we are in bad stuff together or (b) I am healthy and be there for her. But there is never any of her being present for me.

2. Being friendly with strangers. Yup, it works miracles. Research suggests that when we smile, we actually start to feel better. The "acting as if" thing.

3. Yes, prayer, meditation, reiki healing, even massage, can work wonders, too.

Thanks for the wonderful post, Myzen!