So my dad has always suffered with his health, he has had IBS and slipped disc since his late 20's which had progressed to pinched nerve and sciatica later in his 40's. Now his kidneys have started to fail at 58. I feel partially responsible because in the last 2 years my illness has aged him 10 years. I rely on him to take me to all my appointments since I can't drive due to anxiety but I also blame him since he has isolated us from our extended family so we cannot rely on anyone. My cousin mentioned in passing how my dad's health has deteriorated and it is stressing me out and I think its causing me rapidly cycle. He has 3 more years until retirement but I'm scared I'm getting worse and worse instead of progressing which is stressing him out even more. What do I do? I can't force myself to get better.