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I now see the benefit of the vacation break.

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You do? Please... let me in on the secret!

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The separation has allowed me to experience something from my childhood that I would not have been able to get in touch with if T had not gone on vacation. I was extremely neglected as a little girl and I used to lay in bed night after night anxious with no comfort, often wetting the bed. Not only was I not encouraged to express my needs, I never even knew what that means. No context, no concept of what being needy means or being worthy of consideration.

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Ohhhhh. So that's what it's supposed to do. Hmmm. I still have to think a great deal about what the break has meant to me. I think that's awesome that you have come this far to be able to get the value out of the separation. You should be proud of yourself.