Have you explored in therapy your attraction to unavailable men?

I was attracted to unavailable men my whole life until age 49. I was married for some years and lived with a man for many years and dated in between. All unavailable one way or the other.

Yet it often felt right away we are so compatible and its mean to be and soul mates ( kind of you say after only few dates)etc I explored in therapy that it's my subconscious reaction to unavailable men, not true compatibility. The strongest chemistry and excitement I ever felt was for unavailable men. My t said its because our bodies respond to familiar. And that familiar is: unavailable men. That's all we know.

My t also told me that when things feel wrong : they usually are wrong. The minute you fell anxious over the guy not responding etc is most likely your guts were telling you " he is unavailable, red flag", yet it feels like you must pursue him, he is a dream come true etc but logically speaking you just need to run away ASAP not run forward

I don't think you did anything wrong. I don't believe you pushed him away. He is just not the right guy. If you continue dating online please reconsider free sites. Seriously inclined men would most likely use sites that are more selective hence cost money. Most free sites are more for hooks ups.

Try eharmony. It is pricey but worth the money.

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