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the fact that I can feel the way I do towards him, means that I can feel those feelings with someone else outside of the therapy room.

So maybe instead of focusing on whether or not we love out T's, because that can mean so many things to each one of us, we should identify what individual feelings we are developing...

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This is the first time I really understood why transference can be therapeutic. Thanks for posting what your T said. I think I can understand now that by developing trust in our T's and then experiencing strong feelings toward him/her (anger, love, trust, friendship, attachment... whatever) it can show us we're capable of those feelings towards others. Then we can practice how to deal with all those different emotions. I don't think I love or completely trust my T yet and I'm definately not doing well with those things outside of therapy either, so i need to think about what you posted some more.