Hi d.o.a.

NOTHING AT ALL pathetic about crying!!
Hurt is hurt, pain is pain..........and that's not something to be ashamed about, and neither should be the outward expression of those. I'm just sorry your mother took that expression away from you
And yes, about your mother.........you have every right to feel hurt, to shed tears about the way she treated you!!

Plus, you're right, I would hope that the natural human instinct if someone was crying would be compassion and caring and that you're able to give that to yourself also if/when you shed tears

And d.o.a..........major kudos for the massive step you've taken in the outward expression of your feelings/in shedding tears!!! That is a real sign of strength!!!



Alison