I'm on medical leave from my teaching gig, long story, and today I accepted a lovely part-time job at a local non-profit organization and I plan on "retiring" from the soul-killing job at the end of the school year. I'm so excited by this new direction. My friends and daughters are happy for me, too.

So, husband comes home, my accepting this job is no surprise, but no words of congratulations. Name calling!! Threats!!! "You have to figure out how much you cost and cover it!!!" He is acting sicker than I am!

So, I'm practicing some of my DBT skills, using an easy manner in response, not apologizing for disagreeing, believing in my choice, and staying strong and truthful. This takes a strong stomach. I have a long history of codependency. Sigh. Not easy. Glad I can post here.