Yeah, that's what I'm going to do. My bf will be calling tonight and coming home tomorrow, and I'll have him talk to her. Thanks for the advice. It's the right thing to do.

Pita, yeah, I know I should just let her get it, but when she makes it such a pain, I don't know how to handle it. The thing is, I know I'm selfish, but not as much so as she and others make me out to be, and she'll tell people that I am expecting things I'm not. She confuses why she thinks I get upset with why I really get upset. I mean, she doesn't understand what it means to feel disrespected when she's the one causing it. She thinks it's about material things. For instance, if she's tells me something (and I feel this way no matter who says something to me), I use that information as its given.

In this case, this is not what's happened so far, but it's the kind of thing that could happen, because it's how she is: As I said, I haven't called or spoken to her since yesterday's terrible call. If I speak with her today and mention that the printer was on sale but no longer is, she might well say, "Well, why didn't you tell me and I could have bought it for you and saved the money?" (I'm not sure how this would be accomplished, since I don't know if you can buy online and pick it up later, and I don't have a way to get to the store, and she is too scared to drive the streets around the stores, because they're highly trafficked, but it's an example.) But she told me to wait to talk to Mike, and there was nothing I could do, anyway. This is the type of thing she does, and others back her up, calling me selfish and inconsiderate, when I did what she asked me to.

I do want the printer. It's not a cheap printer, but I asked her if it was okay, and she said yes, and I told her it was okay to expect a cheaper one, but I wanted to know before I researched, so I knew what my limits were, and so I didn't get my heart set on one. For my uses, being a writer and for some of the projects I have in mind, it's a great one. I have to have some cleaning up done, which my bf is going to do, although I have to do all the wiping afterwards, and believe me, I'm stressed out. Some people think, "Oh, she's getting a printer," so I'm winning and getting no suffering out of it. These are people who have no idea what OCD is like.

She hasn't called me so far today, and I don't plan on calling her. I want to call my sister, as I told her I would this weekend while my bf's away, but I'm worried what my mom has said to her. Plus it's Sunday, and I don't know if my sister will be available, with church and all. But I was too sleepy yesterday to call her. My sister thinks I'm spoiled--she's said so--and I agree, I was raised that way, although not as badly as many. But I get really ticked off when I'm not the one who initiates things like my mom buying me something, and I'm made out to be the bad guy for wanting it.