It depends on why I'm crying. Most of the time it is a bit of a mystery. The tears just sort of come at the oddest moments, so often T will ask me what is going on, what I'm thinking, what I'm feeling, what set the tears off. It's important information usually because generally something pretty important has been triggered and understanding where that is coming from is part of the work.

Other times the cause of the tears is obvious: grief over the loss of a loved one, worry about my husband's health . . . At those kinds of times he just lets me cry. He might hold my hand or something, but those aren't times that really require much processing; I'm just overwhelmed by a current situation that's pretty obvious.