Thanks everyone. It was scary! I live right on a main road, so I have no way of knowing if these are people who live in this community, or who just found a convenient place to pull over and yell at each other.

Zwangsstörung, you asked "why the assumption that he's the issue here? Maybe she cheated on him or did some other kinda messed up thing?"

You're right that she could have started the argument. But, I couldn't ask if he was OK, because he drove away. And, he was the one that I saw get out of the car, and throw the phone at the ground. It looked like he was about to beat the crap out of her (and even if she cheated on him, nobody deserves to be hit). And, he left her there, with no other car/ride in sight, and drove off really fast (like squealing tires fast!). I don't know if she lives in the community, or if he just dumped her here. Or if her phone was damaged from being thrown. Also, as a single female, I'm not comfortable approaching a possibly angry man to see if he needs help - there's too much risk there for me. But, a woman who may have been kicked out of the car, when the car has left, and who may not have a working phone? Yeah, I'm OK asking if she needs me to call someone for her, or if she's stranded.

So, while she may have been at fault, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that she might need some sort of help at that point. It was dark, it's a busy area, and I didn't know if she was close to home or just left in some random neighborhood.

And, wow... you do have some crazy stuff going on by you! I think that hearing people fighting about drugs would have definitely gotten a call to the police from me! Yikes.

Winter4me... Wow. That's a lot to have had to grow up with. It seems like it made you sort of... immune to it? Like, you're used to it, so you don't get too bothered? Is that right? For me... there was some violence in my house growing up, and I think that's made me really sensitive to stuff like this. I go into "fight or flight" (really just "flight" though) easily. It sucks to realize that I'm absolutely safe (ie these people don't know who I am and can't see me, I'm in the house with the doors locked) but that my body reacts with tons of stress chemicals, to the point of feeling like I'm shaking. Ugh.

Oh, and I totally agree that your parents not talking about any of this has an effect. Mine are like that too. My mom seems incapable of acknowledging anything negative to this day. It feels really crazy-making and surreal sometimes!

I really just wish my little community wasn't RIGHT on a main road. People use us to turn around all the time, and I wouldn't care at all, except... we have separate driveways for coming in and leaving the community. These people all seem to want to come in, turn around, and go right back out through the (clearly marked, one-way only) entryway. It's dangerous and annoying. And, of course... stuff like this makes me crazy. I don't know, it's possible the woman lives here, but it looks like they just found a convenient place to stop and have an argument.

Really, it's silly... but I need to replace my windows. They're like 50 years old and single pane glass, and I hear *everything* through them. I think when I can get some better, thicker windows, it will help cut down on me noticing stuff like this!