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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
When you talk about life scenarios where you see others get comfort and hugs and how it makes you wish you could accept that kind of comfort what you are saying with that is that you don't know how to feel safe and that was never because you did not deserve to feel safe, but to you that is how it feels.
I can relate to needing to vent, but being at a loss of what I want when I do so. However, I slowly have come to recognize what I don't want and that is important to recognize too.
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OE, you nailed it. Those are words I can use to tell my T what I am feeling. I cannot find words often times. I rely on people here and on other sites to help me with those words.
What you said is exactly what I feel. "I wish I could accept that kind of comfort but I don't know how." That sounds completely impossible to believe unless you are in the same position I am then you totally understand.
Your validation means alot to me. "That was never because you did not deserve to feel safe, but to you that is how it feels." Thank you for that. Validating how I feel means so much to me.
Your words are exactly right "Needing to vent, but being at a loss of what I want when I do so." THATS ME!!! I want to, but I don;t know hwat to do. I want to cry, I want to be hugged, I want to feel safe, I want to be comforted, but I jsut don't know how to allow that.
Thank you again OE for giving me words. The words to explain how I feel and apparently so mnay others to. I will read that article after the kids go to sleep.