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Originally Posted by Rose76
Your husband cannot possibly meet all your needs to have someone to confide in. I'm not a believer in married persons having close, confiding relationships with persons of the opposite gender, unless that is as couple to couple. But it is extremely unhealthy for a married couple to relate only, or mostly only, to each other. The two of you will just dwell in a mentally stagnant place...
Cultivate female friends for yourself. Do not report to your husband on every conversation you have with such friends. Doing that just enables and encourages him to be insecure.
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Rose76 thank you for your response. The problem I have right now is that I don't have ANY female friends, and my only remaining friend is a male. He is the guy who brought us together, and we are all friends, but lately my husband usually declines when I invite us all to go out together. I understand why he's uncomfortable if he's not there, though, since it is a male friend. I am desperately trying to find female friends, but it's hard because my work and hobbies are male-dominated and so far the couple women I've found are not interested in hanging out or even texting on a regular basis. I also feel I don't know how to get along with women because I grew up with brothers, boy cousins, and even my mom grew up with all brothers and is probably more masculine then feminine, haha.
Basically I understand his discomfort, but I am slowly driving myself mad from isolation and I don't know how to find the kinds of friendships he'd be okay with.