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Originally Posted by FallingFreely
I think a therapy gift should be thought about carefully.
With the example of jewelry, would you be okay if you gave it to her, and she gave it back? What if she accepted it and you never saw her wear it? What if she accepted it, and she wore it every single time you saw her? What if she put it on her bookshelf for display? What if she did something weird with it?
I'd be most upset if she wore it every single time I saw her. I'd assume she was trying to placate me.
I read somewhere that therapists dread getting gifts from clients because they don't know what the expectations are. It's like pinning them in a corner and forcing them to wile their way out with the least amount of carnage.
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I'm sure it depends on your relationship. My T and I have exchanged lots of small things like shells we found etc. In the case of the bracelet I made certain shed accept something I'd made ( she's seen examples of my beadwork so she knew what she was getting). I knew it would crush me if she refused it because of the work involved in making it. So before I made it i checked with her and she was actually so excited that she kept asking me if it was done yet : ).
I didn't have to ask about the shells etc BC she gave me one first.
I'm always one to lean toward asking.
And like I said I really was surprised by how huge my feelings about the gift were, so think that through. Of course for me it was not just a gift but a piece of art I designed and spent many hours making so maybe you would not have so many strong feelings.