Divine1966, he wasn't always this way. He does want me to have friends, but again the only friend I have is an old male friend and he'd prefer, understandably, if they were female. There have been a few rough spots where he seemed really mad or suspicious, but the worst was when he was drinking and now he is sober. So he does tell me it's okay to go out with friends, it's just that at times his insecurities have gotten the best of him so I feel I'm walking on eggshells.

In regards to not being supportive about my struggles, it's something that never came up before. We've been together a year and were acquainted for about a year before that, and I've been generally very happy over the past several years of my life. Dealing with this recent trauma I experienced was totally unexpected, and is probably is painful for him too so I understand why he doesn't want to talk about it. But yes I didn't expect him to be quite so cold about it; he says in his eyes he is just trying to snap me out of a dark place, but for me (I know from experience with my past traumas) I need to process it and address it before I can go back to daily life.